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As I have grown older, my temperament has become more and more easygoing. Perhaps because sex hormones no longer surge as they did in youth, or perhaps because I have seen more of the world, I have gradually taken everything more lightly. Fewer things irritate…

Sometimes, compared with remembering, what we need more is to forget. — Epigraph Some patients' family members, after their loved ones pass away, take a very long time to come out of grief. I generally advise them to start by gradually throwing away the deceased's…

Of all the years of my life, the one I miss most is the year I was nineteen. That was 1998-1999, and I was a freshman at an engineering university, studying the school's flagship major. If I had stayed in that program, I might now…

My whole life I have hated lecturing and disliked acting the expert, because I know I am neither deep nor noble enough to be anyone’s teacher, so I mostly prefer to hide my limitations. But now my profession requires me to counsel many people, which…

Character advances with tolerance; tolerance grows with knowledge. Hence one who would deepen his character must broaden his tolerance; and one who would broaden his tolerance must enlarge his knowledge. — Cai Gen Tan (Conversations from a Vegetable Root) In a normal, steady life, the…

There are no miracles, only the routine. — Zhou Youguang During the days this August when I had a mental breakdown, once I went to dig the soil in my small vegetable garden, and as I dug I heard a splashing, fluid-shifting sound. I looked…

In the evening, riding my bicycle back from the vegetable garden at the foot of Fragrant Hills, I looked up and saw a bright moon hanging high in the sky. In that moment my heart suddenly became incomparably light and at peace. In my mind…

Human beings have a right to be imperfect, and this right should not be taken away. Not only that, people should also have the right to desire the things they want and to have their own needs. Even if compromise is required, it should be…

For an INFP personality, the best way to heal is solitude. Even when covered in wounds, after a month or two alone he can fully heal himself, sweeping away depression, anxiety, grief, impulsivity, and other negative emotions. In healing himself, he reads widely, opening one…

The title of this article is an idea Dr. Shigeaki Hinohara, the Japanese physician, kept preaching in his later years. The same profession makes me deeply agree with it. Physicians have essentially only two missions: first, to prolong the patient's life as much as possible;…